It’s one of those wedding horror stories.
Amanda Timm saw it first online late last year: a woman opened her keepsake bridal dress box, only to discover someone else’s gown inside.
“And in the back of my mind, I said, ‘I need to check my box,’ ” Timm recalled. And maybe another time after that. “I’ll do it another time,” she remembered thinking.
Eventually, her 5-year-old daughter, Brynn — as 5-year-olds do — started pestering her about it. After Timm married her husband Mike in St. Paul in 2013, she’d dropped off her dress at a Woodbury dry cleaner to be cleaned and boxed up shortly after their honeymoon.
Last month, Timm pulled the box out from under her stairs at her home in Clear Lake, Minn., to show her middle daughter the bright white, custom-made, lacy gown she’d been married in. But in the box instead she found an ivory, beaded, Oleg Cassini gown. With a train.
“After 8 years I was like … I just told my husband, ‘There is no way I am ever getting the dress back, babe, just so you know,’ ” Timm said. He offered to have another one made. She knew that would not do. “I just sat in a dark room and cried by myself that night, and he was like, ‘do you want to come out and hang out and watch a show?’ And I’m like, ‘I can’t. I just have to sit here and cry.’ “
Kris and Troy Lystad (left photo) were married June 30, 2012, at Woodbury Central Park. Amanda Timm poses for a picture on her wedding day, Feb. 23, 2013, in St. Paul.
Courtesy of Kris Lystad and Amanda Timm
But hope, like true love, never dies, so Timm got on the phone and called the dry cleaner in Woodbury that had boxed up her dress years back. It looked bleak: the business had changed hands twice. There was a tag on the wrong dress, but no name, just a business — Men’s Wearhouse — which obviously had NOT worn the dress. And could have been anywhere.
Enter Polly Nemec, who now owns the Woodbury dry cleaner store, along with several other shops.
“I really, really didn’t hold out a lot of hope,” she said.
But there was another clue: the claim tag in Timm’s box indicated the software used by the shop almost eight years ago was the same company Nemec still used. Nemec got on the phone, fingers crossed, to see if the company had any backup data from that long ago.
They did — and it showed the dresses had come in just two days apart. And there, in the digital dust, was an email address. Nemec fired off a message, hoping someone would see it.
Kris Lystad did.
Amanda Timm hugs Polly Nemec (right), who tracked down Timm’s wedding dress. Timm looked in her wedding dress box and realized that she had another woman’s dress after hearing a news story about a wedding dress mix-up.
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“I looked at it, and I’m like ‘Oh my,” she said. “I went, and I was really close to where the box was, and so I took the box out.”
Lystad, who lives in Stillwater, said it had been in a front entryway closet for nearly a decade, unopened.
“And I looked at it, and I was like, ‘nope, that’s not my dress.’ ” Her husband Troy knew it, too.
Lystad had worked in the formalwear department of Men’s Wearhouse at the time, and had simply shipped over her dress — months after her 2012 wedding — to the dry cleaning shop that her store used. She got it back, life went on, and she hadn’t given it another thought.
Kris Lystad’s wedding dress sits on a table as Polly Nemec adjusts Amanda Timm’s wedding dress on Saturday. Lystad and Timm discovered that they had each other’s wedding dresses for nearly eight years and met Saturday to swap.
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Nemec brought Lystad and Timm together on Saturday at her shop in Stillwater, the aptly named Treasured Garment Restoration. In the back room, surrounded by dozens of other wedding dresses waiting to be boxed up — all of those kept separated at a safe distance — they spread out and admired the gowns they’d last worn the nights of their weddings.
“Oh my God, I’m so happy,” Timm said, the gown finally in hand. “It’s crazy to see it again.”
Nemec took out the cardboard bust forms from the boxed dresses; she said they could stain the fabric. She rewrapped everything in tissue paper while the two women — brides again for the afternoon — looked on.
As Nemec wrapped up the second dress, though, Timm uncapped a felt tip marker and put her initials on the outside of her box. Just in case.
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